The 5 Most Common Self Improvement Goals (And How To Achieve Them)
Transcribed from The Meraki Podcast
So I talk a lot about self-improvement, making goals for yourself, developing your personality and character, and that’s what you all hear about most of the time. What I noticed was, that a lot of people have common questions such as, “what goals should I set for myself?” Meaning, I want to self improve, what can I start with? And I found those questions in so many places. I found them on YouTube, I found them off of Google searches. I went into Reddit and Quora and I saw so many people asking the same questions. So in this episode (transcribed), I really want to go over five of the most common self-improvement goals that you can personally work on, and I’m going to give you tips on how you can achieve them.
So number one, the first goal that you can work on and self-improve yourself with is to lead a healthy lifestyle. Obviously, with everything I’ve been telling you until now, you probably already know that I’m going to say that leading a healthy lifestyle is not just about the food you eat. It’s not just with the things you put into your body, but t’s also the way you act and the way you care for yourself. It’s everything, the whole shebang. That’s the healthy lifestyle in general and you can start your self-improvement with your diet, and having a healthy nutritional lifestyle. The important thing to remember is, that it’s not about what people think, it’s about yourself. If you’ve read my ebook, Mind Yourself, I have dedicated a section that explains the mind, body, and soul. I like to call it the personal trifecta. If you haven’t read my ebook yet, it’s all in there.
But in short, with the Personal Trifecta, I’m trying to bring out the concept that our mind, body, and soul, must be balanced. They form a triangle, and in order for it to be complete and balanced, everything must fall into place because if one part of us is affected in a negative way, the other two will follow. And vice versa. If one part is affected in a positive way, the rest will follow.
So when we take care of our body with the right nutrients and proteins, it helps bring focus to everything we need in order to function properly, which in return will affect the rest of us (soul and mind). When our body is happy, our mind is happy. When you’re not eating healthy, when you’re being lazy, when you’re not taking care of your body; your mind is not happy. You’re going to start feeling less motivated, less happy, more depressed, more lonely, and all these things that come along with neglecting your body.
Your body is the host to both your mind and soul. It’s the home. And if your home is on low maintenance, then your mind and soul will be on low maintenance. So that’s number one. That’s a very important goal and f you want to self-improve and you don’t know where to start, that is a very smart place to start, and that really can lead you to many open doors and to many other things in your life.
Number two, find your purpose in life. So many times we encounter people that just don’t know what they’re doing in life. They can be 30, 40, 50, 60 and they still haven’t found their purpose in life. And it’s sad. It’s sad because it’s true. People can’t find their purpose. And what are you here for? If you don’t have a purpose, you have a sad life. You have a depressed life. I don’t think I need to go into explaining how important having a purpose in life is.
I feel like we all understand and it’s self-explanatory, that living a purposeful life and fulfilling life is so much better than living an empty life that you have no purpose for. So finding your purpose in life is important. Find your passions. Find what sparks and ignites your soul, what makes you happy. All those things can help you work towards finding your purpose in life. And if you want to self-improve and find a goal to work on, finding that purpose in life is a great way to start. We cannot physically, emotionally, or spiritually, do anything without knowing our purpose in life. What is life without goals? So, everything comes down to finding what you’re passionate about, finding what makes you happy and utilizing that to making your life the most fulfilling it can possibly be.
Number three. Acquire more skills for success. This is what I’ve been doing until now. This is what I try to associate myself with as a growing person. Acquiring skills can be done through studying and educating. I mentioned this in my previous episode, The Things To Keep In Mind When You’re In Your Twenties, because when we’re in our twenties, we have the time, we have the patients, and we have the luxury to really sit down and self-educate and learn more skills. Knowledge is power, the more you know, the more power you have, the more success you have, and the more skills you can acquire at a younger age.
Those skills are the tools you’re going to be taking with you for the rest of your life. So it really depends on how many tools you want in your toolbox. Do you want five for the five skills you’ve acquired since you were 20 or do you want hundreds of tools because you sat and you educated yourself and now when you encounter a problem or a roadblock somewhere along with your life, you can just rummage through that toolbox and find out one skill you honed into when you were younger and you can use it for your benefit.
And that is what’s so amazing about self-improvement. That it’s literally tools for the rest of your life. This is what’s going to start your life. People tell me I’m too young to be, preaching self-growth and all of that when I myself have yet to experience life. And that is true, but with every stage of life, and it doesn’t matter what stage you’re in, you can be in a stage of middle school, high school, college, teenager, married, not married, kids, no kids, etc. All these things are stages in life. And within each stage, we change. And so therefore, with each change, we require new tools. This is why we constantly need to educate ourselves and accumulate these skills. You are never too young or too old to start your self-improvement journey!
Number four, improving your personal relationship. Now I’m going to say this in general, improving relationships in general is a great thing, especially if you’re looking to self-improve on something. You can improve on relationships with your parents, with your siblings, with a friend, with a spouse, etc. We have a bunch of relationships that we can refer to, but what I’m talking about right now specifically, is your personal relationship with yourself.
A lot of times, and I’ve seen this with my own eyes - I’ve seen people who are not happy with themselves, who can’t forgive themselves, who can’t let go of the past, who feel guilty for something they’ve never done. They feel guilty for the rest of their lives, and their personal relationship with themselves is based on hate and guilt and fear. All these things are just negative emotions that keep building and building until this person can become either depressed, anxious, develop mental health issues, and many more problems such as these can arise.
I feel like it’s a very underrated topic because a lot of people take for granted the relationship they have with themselves. It’s a known fact that with society, you have to have great relationships. Whether it’s with your boss, your coworker, your employee, your parents, that’s all nice and dandy, but the work has to start from within and that’s what’s really neglected and not mentioned often, and that is self-improvement at its finest. You want to start with self-improvement, start with yourself. Start from the inside. That’s where it all begins.
Number five is Self Development. This kind of goes into two parts: developing a deeper level of commitment and driving yourself to more challenges. So number one, let’s break this up a bit: Developing a deeper level of commitment.
Commitment is an important part of life. Commitment can be in relationships with yourself, parents, with spouses or whatever relationship you have. Commitment can be in something, like a goal. And here’s a secret, the key to commitment is PATIENCE. It takes time to develop our personality and in order for us to really self-improve, we need to commit to it.
If you say, “Okay I’m going to become a better person now, I’m going to have self-improvement goals, I’m going to make it all… yada yada…” One week later, it’s getting too hard for you. You’re starting to forget and you just drop your commitment. What’s going to happen next? Nothing. You just stop right there. There’s no commitment. You can’t move forward. We must have commitment and if you want to work on self-improvement, commitment would be your first step. You can’t achieve anything if you can’t commit to anything.
The second part of number five would be driving to challenge yourself. I know I talk a lot about the fear of taking risks and challenging ourselves. What have we got to lose? Honestly, we live once. What are we afraid of? Rejection. Failure. .. All these things are going to happen regardless at some point. It’s life.
This is what needs to be accepted: There are some rude people in the world. There are some times in life when you’re going to be rejected, and there are plenty of times when you’re going to fail because without failing, you can’t succeed.
If you can let go of this fear of failing and learn to take risks and learn to show vulnerability and be able to challenge yourself, that is self-improvement. Like I previously mentioned, your life is changing with every stage. There’s a new phase, and a new page in your book of life, and within each stage, you have to challenge yourself with new challenges.
If you’re going to stay stuck for the rest of your life in your comfort zones, that’s not self-improving. So it really depends on how far you want to get in life. Do you want to improve and take the next challenge and the next challenge and be able to celebrate accomplishments? Do you want to make new goals and develop deeper connections, have a healthier lifestyle, and build the best life you can possibly have? Then make goals for yourself, self-improvement goals. These are five things that you can work on, and I personally work on them all the time, and the work never ends. The work is for life.
It takes a lifetime to master these things. If you think you can start one day and let it last a week before you see results, you’re probably not going to see results. It takes years for people to overcome bad habits and to create new ones. So commitment is important and challenge yourself to new beginnings. It’ll open so many doors for you in the future.
After reading this article, what are some challenges you are willing to take to push yourself out of your comfort zone?