Stop Overthinking And Take Action
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Women are known to be overthinkers, even over the simplest and the most insignificant things. Whatever situation they will be in, and whether a solution has already been presented, they usually still overthink. It is often why the men in a woman’s life either are confused or irritated by the way we think and complicate things.
But although this is already a woman’s nature, it is not healthy for both women and men in their life.
Below are things to consider and do when you’re stuck again at overthinking over making decisions in life.
1. High impact decision vs. low impact decision.
According to Matt Havens, 80 percent or more of the decision one makes falls under the low impact decision. But what is a low impact decision? Low impact decisions are those that don’t significantly affect you or the people around you.
A few examples are:
deciding on your OOTD
what shoes to pair with your dress or jeans
where and what to eat
As you stop for a moment and think whether what kind of impact will it affect to you and others, ask yourself as well, in 5, 10, 15 years from now, how will it affect you? Will it still affect you? With this thought in mind, it is better to always remember the second step.
2. REMEMBER: everyone makes mistakes.
All humans — both men and women make mistakes. Nobody is perfect; everybody faces adversities. But it gets worse depending on how we handle things. Having this in mind, don’t pressure yourself too much that you should be able to arrive at a decision or a conclusion that is so grand and worth standing for. Pressuring yourself that way increases your overthinking instead of mellowing it down.
Don’t be so caught up getting everything right and making everything right. Mistakes that you make hones the person you are today and the person you’ll be tomorrow. Getting so beat up over fear of making a mistake causes you a little more distant from whatever it is you’re aiming for.
Now that you’ve convinced and reminded yourself that mistakes are okay let’s go to step 3.
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3. Writing everything down + pros and cons.
Step 3 tells us that despite all the steps you’ve already taken, it does not eliminate the overthinking going around your mind. It can either be lessened, a little more increased, but whatever it will be, you know it’s still there.
Now, in this step, list down your thoughts and courses of action you’d want to take or thought of taking — write it anywhere you’re comfortable with. Maybe you want to be Massie Block from The Clique and typing it down on your desktop or laptop, go ahead.
As you’ve laid them down there, individually identify each of its pros and cons. Look at it, weigh it. And while you’re at that, continue to move on to the next step.
4. Let go.
Letting go means admitting yourself that no matter how many thoughts and solutions you have in your mind, at the end of the day, you can’t control them. At the end of the day, whatever you will choose, you have to commit to it and then go back to step 2, reminding yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and it is okay to do so.
Are you still overwhelmed? Sudden back-lash? It’s okay, move on to step 5.
Meditation is one of the best methods to recognize your breathing pattern and to take control of it and to free your mind and relax. Calm yourself, breath slowly and deeply. You’ll be surprised at how much this has calmed you down and how ready you’ll be getting to put your mind at rest.
6. Take action one at a time.
As you have calmed down, go back to your list. Look at it, and listen to yourself which action is best for you to take. And let me add, ONLY CHOOSE ONE FOR NOW. Don’t be so overwhelmed again and make yourself so worked up on getting everything done. Take actions one at a time and stay committed to it because the rest will then follow.
Congratulations, you’ve made it! If not, don’t beat yourself up; it takes time. Again, it is in our nature as women to usually overthink everything. If the steps above do not work for you, you can either mix it all up or pick a lesson/tip or two.
The bottom line is that even though women are wired to overthink, it does not mean that you can’t reach into a decision. And by the end of the day, no matter how you overthink, remember that there are only two impacts — the high and the low. Identify it. Ask yourself whether what you’re overthinking will affect you in the next years of your life. If not, let it go and be free of that burden.
You got it, girl!