How To Stop Sweating The Small Stuff
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If you’ve read The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F***, you’ll get the following references and lessons. But if not, then, I’m pretty sure in no time you’ll be out there looking for this book or an Ebook copy, because it’s worth reading. Anyway, one of the first things I learned in its first few pages in its first chapter is this: “reserve you’re giving a f*** to important things like family, friends, purpose, etc.” And another one is “find the most important and meaningful in life.” These aren’t the exact words from the book, but this is the idea.
The bottom line of these two lessons and take away is that it is up to you on how you choose to view things in your life. Which you’ll give more importance and stress over and which you won’t. Because when you end up stressing over everything, even the small stuff, you’ll end up being anxious, spreading too much negativity into your life and body, and worst, giving yourself too much stress that may affect your health in the long run.
As you learn to change perspective and identify which is worth stressing over, you’ll live a more meaningful and light life. But how do we do that, aside from just changing perspective? I’ll share with you five ways so that you’ll be able to shift perspective and stop sweating over the small stuff successfully.
1. Practice being [more] mindful.
As cliché as it may sound, being mindful actually will assist you to stop sweating over that small stuff. It is in being mindful in your every action, words, and thought that you could deflect negativity and stop rumination. It is because as you start being aware without judgment, you’re conditioning yourself as to how you’ll be reacting to every situation in your life.
More about this in the previous article here.
When given a situation wherein you feel so stuffed, anxious, and stressful over what you thought is a big deal, but it is just small insignificant stuff that actually can be solved right away rather than making too much fuss about it, you’ll get blinded. You’ll usually not be able to identify this because you’d be so caught up on what’s currently happening. But get a grip with yourself, stop for a moment and think whether or not the situation could just be solved right there and then.
Look for answers to whatever situation you will be in. You will be surprised as well as confused why you got so over the top to an insignificant thing that can just be solved easily. Like you’d be questioning yourself, “really? Over something like that?”
You have to ask yourself how you’ll be solving this small problem. By doing so, you’ll have a better hold of your emotions and continue with the day ahead.
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3. Speak positively.
As hard as this could get during stressful times, speaking positively about things is a win-win situation for you and whoever you’re with.
Always remember how a positive word circuits to reward systems while negative ones spike angriness or even sad thoughts. So when feeling attacked, judged, or whatever situation you’ll be in that hinders you to speak positively, remember this.
You can also do these things: shrug things off with a good-natured laugh and say something light and positive. In this way, you’re not only calming yourself but also reframing the other person’s frame or line of thought.
4. Embrace optimism.
Always remember that behind every setback in life is an opportunity for a better or even the best outcome. Not every day, everything will go according to how you want it to be or how you planned it to be. There are days wherein it just swerves into another path but know and be optimistic enough to remind yourself that this means you’re on your way to something better and more significant. Because no matter how much we plan our days and life, at the end of the day, there are things and moments that are just meant to happen to make us a better, wiser, and stronger person.
5. Celebrate every milestone.
As you embrace optimism and as you acknowledge that there will be setbacks in life, know that despite all these, you got to get yourself celebrating each milestone, each path. It’s so easy to be so caught up with all your huge plans, but remember even how small things are they also accomplishments.
Acknowledge each of your progress, whether fast or slow, because progress is progress; milestone is progress. And you know what it just really means? You’re moving your way up to success in achieving whatever it is you have planned.
The bottom line is, to stop sweating on small stuff is to start changing your perspective and how you view and measure your life in general — even those little things. Because according to Mark, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F***, you “don’t hope for a life without problems, instead, hope for a life full of good problems.” Because in doing so, you’ll be able to choose your struggles and not on how the outcome was or your victory. Because as you choose your battles, you’re practicing on changing how you see things.
Have you read the book? I’d love to hear your thoughts and take away!