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So you met a girl and you really like her. You want to make a move but you're unsure about her feelings towards you. Is she on the same page? Can you ask her out on a date? These are steps that must be taken for any relationship to evolve but you need to be smart or you'll scare her off. It is also wise to keep in mind that some girls are overly friendly and might come off as flirtatious but have no real interest in you. There are also those that keep a distance because they don't want to seem flirtatious but deep down they really like you. You also don’t want the girl you like to allow you to think she likes you too because she’s too nice to flat out reject you.
Basically, girls can be overly complicated but there are ways to find clear signs whether she's into you or not. If you are just starting out with a girl, here are 7 ways for you to take a hint.
She reaches out to you - One of the most obvious signs a girl is into you is if she really enjoys spending time with you and reaches out to you on a regular basis. P.S. some girls like to be "chased" so you'll probably be the one reaching out. Regardless, if she really likes you she'll go out of her way to see you.
Engages in serious conversation - If a girl asks you questions about your life and things you like to do, it means she's interested in who you are as a person. If she likes you she'll ask a lot of questions, making an effort to get to know you better. A quick giveaway to see if she is making an effort is to see if she asks a question when there is a hint of awkward silence. This shows that she wants to keep the conversation going and, most importantly, develop a rapport with you. The same goes to her opening up about herself. If you find yourself listening to her answering questions about herself and revealing personal detail about her life it means she trusts you and is a great sign that she's into you.
Body language - Watch her body language. Is she keeping eye contact, are her hands crossed or comfortable, is she leaning in towards your direction or away. All these are subtle signs for you to take a hint if she's into you, whether she's doing it consciously or subconsciously.
Is she nervous around you? - There is a very big difference between nervous and uninterested, and a lot of guys don't know the difference. Just because a girl is quiet doesn't mean she's not interested. It could be her nerves acting up because she likes you but doesn't want to make it too obvious... It's all about testing your game with us girls :) Here are some signs she may be nervous and it'll be your que to make her feel as comfortable and as safe as possible. - Touching her face - Blinking frequently - Compressing her lips together - Playing with her hair - Rubbing her hands All these motions and body movements are considered to be soothing when in a nervous state.
She makes plans with you - If a girl is into you she'll make herself available to spend quality time with you. P.S. a girl can still be complicated and play "hard-to-get" by saying no the first time around. If you ask her to hang and she's always too busy than that would be the perfect hint for you to move on. If your'e just starting off with the girl, don't immediately ask her out on a date. Make subtle plans such as hanging at the mall with a few friends, going to the theaters, taking a nature hike or going to the city etc.
You start to hear your name among her friends - If she likes you, you can 100% count on the fact that her girlfriends know about you. Women tell their girlfriends everything! So if your'e lucky enough to be introduced to her friends be on your best behavior because this is the time she'll be getting their approval:) Her friends will also probably ask you some questions about yourself to make sure your'e a good guy.
Does she look happy around you? - Is she smiling, laughing, blushing and glowing? If yes, you got a pretty decent hint that she's way into you... probably head over heels:) To test her feelings, see if she giggles when you say a joke. Humor is a huge indicator of a positive relationship with someone. If she engages in smiles, humorous and playful banter, then she is definitely interested in you.
To conclude, there are several ways for you to make a decision on how you think the girls feels about you. Pay attention to the small details, is she agreeing with you often, does she eat less in front of you (don't take this one as a fact because I ate like a monster when I first started going out with Jacob LOL) Does she use the word "we" often, does she make sure to be presentable when around you like getting dressed, putting on makeup and smelling good etc.
P.S If you really want to know whether or not she's into you - just ask. It might be nerve wrecking to find a way to ask her straight out but life is a risk and you'd feel much better knowing the truth then to invest your time and emotions into someone who doesn't share the same feelings about you.
Tip: Don't get yourself friend zoned! Like I mentioned before, bluntly asking her out on a date may scare her off so your best bet is to start off with hanging out with a few other people so she starts to feel safe around you, but don't let it get out of hand. You want to make sure that your'e spending more time with her one-on-one than you are with a group of friends.