5 Ways I Learned To Love Myself
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It sounds simple, but it is not actually. Insecurities, low self-esteem, and failures are some factors that constrain you to dislike yourself. Maybe we haven’t fully love ourselves yet. Loving oneself takes time and courage. It doesn’t happen overnight. It is a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. “Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” — Lucille Ball “To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” — Robert Morley How do we love ourselves? Here are some ways that you could do it. 1. Take a break Sometimes things aren’t going the same way as we wanted it to be. Giving yourself a break from time to time is okay and normal. Do not be too hard on yourself and slowly accept uncertainties in life. 2. Reward yourself Make a vision board where you write your long term and short goals. Once you have accomplished each goal, you give yourself a little treat. After a long tiring week or closing a deal with a difficult client or just got promotion. A Starbucks coffee for a week, perhaps? A new dress? Shoes? A new phone? A good massage? Rewarding yourself is a good way of making yourself happy and motivates you to do better. It is a simple way also of recognizing yourself by achieving those. Who doesn’t love rewards, right? Celebrate your achievements by telling others what you have, be proud of yourself because you deserve it. 3. Take care of yourself How do you take care of yourself? Self-care is very important, and it is your way of loving yourself. You can look for some self-care tips/ideas on Pinterest and YouTube. No one can take care of yourself better than you do. Be the best version of yourself by taking care of yourself.
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4. Travel Traveling is not for everyone, but I think you should try it. When I had my first solo travel, I was so excited and so happy. It excites me thinking that I am alone, of course, no mom or dad who would tell me what to do and what not to do. And happy because I wanted to travel so much. Whenever I am in a new place, I wanted to relish the moments. Strolling somewhere downtown or going to tourist spots or just listening to my favorite songs while having a good breakfast and a beautiful view. Oh, how I miss it! Travelling is such a beautiful thing. It allows you to see and experience the culture of others. It gives you a different perspective towards the people you encounter, how you see some things, and how precious one’s life is. Travelling creates memories that last. “A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things that add quality and beauty to life.” — Andrew Matthews 5. Learn to say No Sometimes we do too much for the people around us, be it in work, our family, friends or for some people in general. We tend to go the extra mile; we wanted to show them that ‘I got it’ or ‘we have it’ attitude, and we tend to please them. And by doing, so we forgot to look after ourselves, that is why we need to learn to say NO. We can’t please everyone, that’s a fact. It is something that I struggle with, and I am still learning about how to deal with it. Why do I find it hard to do so? As I have learned more about myself, I figured out that it has been my weakness and, at the same time, my strength. Yes, I am one of those people who put others’ welfare first before mine, and because of these, others try to take advantage of it. Not everyone can have empathy, and you learn how to handle it. I know it’s difficult to say NO, I’ve been there. You say no to people who take advantage of you, people who demanded your time unjustly, and those who overstep their boundaries because they need to know that you won’t tolerate their actions and for them to know you stand for your own. By saying no, you also discipline, and you learn how to love and take care of yourself. We are imperfect, we make mistakes, and we learned from it. Remember… we are in charge of our own lives.