4 Reasons Why You Are Still Single
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How many times have you been asked by your friends these things…
“When are you going to get married?”
“Is he/she the one?”
“When was the last time you even got serious about your relationships?
Love is a simple word but has a complex meaning. Merriam-Webster Dictionary defined love as a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. And being in a relationship is a lot of work. You have to see to it that your partner is not only physically there for you but also emotionally available. You can read about the 8 signs you need to know if your partner is emotionally available here.
Here are some possible reasons why you are still single:
1. You have not moved on yet.
Breaking up is never easy. I believe that in a relationship, it does not matter how long or short you’ve been together, but the memories you have shared.
I had a friend who’s in a relationship for five years, and she’s even ready to get married anytime soon. We told her to sort things out and take a little time off. Then one afternoon, she just burst into tears, and there I am giving her a box of tissue paper. The guy wanted to end it without a second thought.
Fast-forward to this day, and she’s still single and happy. Although she already moved on from that heartbreak, she’s still not ready to begin again.
Some of us may find it hard to move on, and it’s very normal. Take some time off. Some of us may cringe to date again, but seriously this “rebound” relationship is likely to fail, and you’ll even get things more complicated than it is.
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2. You have not found the right one yet.
When we started to have a crush on someone, we already had an ‘ideal’ type. I remember when I was just in high school, and my friends would ask about my ideal type, I always say, “Tall, dark and handsome.”
As we grow up, it changes. Your ideal man before might not be your perfect man today.
We have set our standards as to whom we wanted to date or to be with. You might be happy at this moment, but the moment you face difficulties in your relationship, you might never think of seeing a different side of your partner.
People change. They might change for themselves, for other people or some other reasons but people change.
When we start dating, there’s that different kind of feeling, there’s excitement, and there’s happiness. We tend to do crazy things, we want to be appreciated and loved like there’s no tomorrow (and no one else).
Then as your relationship deepens and you grow as an individual, you will notice that some things have changed. For you, it might be right, but for your partner, it’s not. Then you broke up after years of being together because he or she’s not the ‘right’ one for you.
3. You think you are not ready.
Is there such a thing as being ready? I don’t think so.
I haven’t heard of anyone or from anyone who’s ever been ready for a relationship. I mean, relationships are developed over time. You don’t think of it overnight.
It is easier for us to say that we are not yet ready for it. But I think you need to try. You will never know when you are prepared if you won’t bother trying! You can’t reach your destination when you are just standing there! I know you get what I mean.
Well, I’m not saying that you need to rush things out because it might turn out the other way around. All I’m saying is that you need to make a move.
4. You want to have a happy ending.
I’m guilty of this one.
Maybe because I am a huge fan of romantic movies and not to mention Disney princesses. I was thinking and hoping that it may happen to me in real life. Who knows, right?
Although I have already moved on from it, I won’t be ashamed to admit it. Who doesn’t want to have a happy ending? Right?
But this is very unrealistic. Being in a relationship is not always a bed of roses.
Before my husband and I got married, our relationship was just the same as everybody else. We broke up then get back together a couple of times. We argue on a lot of stuff simply because we are the total opposite in many ways. And what keeps us together is that we find ways to resolve things, and we’ll continue in doing so.
Remember that happiness is always a choice. You don’t force it to someone just because you are happy.
Having a relationship is easy, but keeping a relationship is a never-ending to-do- list.
If you’re single, don’t rush things. Don’t get into a relationship because you want to have someone to be with you. Be in a relationship where you are able to grow as a better person.